Remember that old children’s rhyme, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me”? If only that were true. Unfortunately words can hurt, sometimes worse then sticks and stones and the scars can be longer lasting.
A study done at Harvard University found verbal abuse, including, swearing, ridiculing, and criticizing, could be as harmful to children as physical and sexual abuse. Children who had been verbally abused were more prone to physical aggression, PTSD, delinquency and difficulty getting along with others. Verbal abuse may cause delayed mental development, depression, and negative self image.
Even adults are not immune. A study published in the Annals of Family Medicine found verbal abuse of postmenopausal women was associated with increased depression, anxiety and decreased optimism. Verbal abuse in spousal and long-term relationships had similar psychological effect as physical abuse.
As I look back over the years I cringe at the number of times I have said something I later wished I could take back. Unfortunately, once a word is past the lips it’s impossible to suck it back in.
Words can hurt, but they also can heal. Proverbs 16:24 says, “Kind words are like honey— sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.”
This morning let your prayer be, “Take control of what I say, O Lord, and guard my lips.” Psalm 141:3.
Determine, with God’s help, to speak only encouraging words to those you meet, spreading a little honey wherever you go today.
God bless and have a wonderful day!